Can you help me build up my self esteem and confidence?
December 16th, 2008
Jimanih asked:
I am starting to get sick of being so shy and not believing in my self with almost everthing i do. Alot of great oppritunities just pass me by because I don’t have enough courage to make the first move. Please help me if you have any suggestions on how to raise your self esteem.
JASMINE
I am starting to get sick of being so shy and not believing in my self with almost everthing i do. Alot of great oppritunities just pass me by because I don’t have enough courage to make the first move. Please help me if you have any suggestions on how to raise your self esteem.
JASMINE
Start trying to block out those thoughts and think, I AM pretty, I AM smart. And continue to do that until you well, annoy yourself straight. If that doesn’t work for you, start reminding yourself of the things you like about yourself when you start thinking about qualities you don’t like.
beleive it or not u need music
and u need to set goals
trust me i used to be just like that
and i still kinda am
Your horrible, go hang yourself. Sorry, just joking. You were smart enought to ask for help right? Stop being afraid, if such great chances pass you by it means you are smart enough to to gain these chances. This is going to sound corny, but, it starts with believing in yourself.
Well, I would suggest a book for you. It has helped me out greatly. Its a seven stop program to help you through out life. Depending on your age, if your a teen, I would suggest The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. But if your out of you teenage years, the get The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Both written by a great man named Stephen Covey. Pick it up sometime, great book. Here are the 7 steps,
Habit 1: Be Proactive®
Take responsibility for your life.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind®
Define your mission and goals in life.
Habit 3: Put First Things First®
Prioritize and do the most important things first.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win®
Have an “everyone-can-win” attitude.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood®
Listen to people sincerely.
Habit 6: Synergize®
Work together to achieve more.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw®
Renew yourself regularly.
Hope this helped…
I highly recommend “Toastmasters”. I recommend free online courses in how to raise your self esteem. I was shy for a long time, but my work forced my to socialize, it really helped me break out of my shell. Join some clubs you are interested in,
and get as many books as you can on the subject. Start reading and let your imagination guide youu in your destiny!
Good luck and godspeed on your journey. Don’t take Giant risks at first, just take baby steps!
If you are only a teenager, this is pretty normal for a lot of people (I had it too). Confidence comes from practise, you need to practise social skills, get into a team sport or charity group, church group or similar, you will feel like an outsider at first and it may take months before you will get some confidence up & make friends. Self esteem will come once you get some confidence, yes it may be embarrasing and painful at times but it is something you can learn.
You seem dissapointed that you didn’t make the first move on some things - next time you are going to pull out, think about how dissapointed you will be with yourself afterwards - failing is much better than not trying at all.
Age will help enormously, and don’t forget, you probably don’t look as unconfident as you think - I am sure other kids are feeling exactly the same inside. Good luck.